Heres How to Tell Your Roommate to Clean the Bathroom! It was a boy; he text me the pics. He says she's very confrontational and he doesn't want drama . Right now we're long distance and planning to hopefully move in together within the next year or two. Well I'm falling for a man with 2 "babymamas" recently and it sucks. When I first met him he had a daughter , and was living with a female other than his daughters mother. Lmao ok that makes sense. I love my daughter with all my heart. Is this for real?" He picked me. And, if you dont like him using it as your pet name, you should also speak up and say something and Im sure hell stop. I'm all ears, but until this day, he stalks me alittle and still calls. I still have the desire that I want my family back together. Thanks, See my bf and I have been dating and his ex/baby mama is about to give birth any day now to his son his son was not planned he was drunk that one night and she cheated on him multiple times but I still feel like the other women even though the only connection to her is his son which I except the baby just not her but I feel like crap because she could give him his first child and I cant Im scared I might lose to him to her In the future even though the only time they talk is about the baby about to be born I just dont know what to do anytime his mom calls she tell him about the baby but dislikes me because she feels Im the barrier between him and his ex getting back together and that I ruined a childs family future and everyone pissed at him for hooking up with me instead of being with her because they want the baby to have both parents and not parents with separate lovers so this entire time I feel like the devil in this situation the other women. Its normal for some guys within certain cultures to call their girlfriends their baby mama, but its not a popular saying, to be honest. Surely there's another. Any advice or comments? He is the romance ninja and is hell-bent on bringing in Cupid as a stakeholder in your relationship. And sometimes despite how horrible a person the ex is, some people just never let go or move on. The thing is I don't want his money and I know he needs to be held accountable but honestly if he doesn't want part of his daughter life he can go. Because your over your baby mama, that's why you don't talk about hercorrect? Oh and women, feel free also to give your advice/opinion. Their **** if they think so! Secrets don't work, and what needs to happen is that everybody needs to be clear and on the up-and-up. So I dont' know, for my child's sake, I just want us to do better as parents. We had ALOT of attraction and chemistry, but absolutely no compatability. What some men do is have a hoe on the side and pump her up but it's rare if he'll ever marry her. She bareycan keep a job so Im wondering if he takes care of her in addition to paying child support. It also shows you how to read and interpret body language and how to make use of your own body language. I don't think I could ever be in another relationship with another woman! He seeks my approval because I set the standard. No. The day after that, he had her bringing him to my subdivision. You know ur right sometimes women do make bad choices some don't use birth control n I am one of those. girls that go with married guys are looking for trouble, and then shocked when they find it! The thing I do not understand is we have two son's together but he acts like I do not exist. As far as love goes I love him to the degree that my daughter loves him and he's important to her so since I love her I care about him. I know I try but the shit she says sounds believable..they were together for 8 year there son is 3 I think deep down he still has feelings for her (even tho he talks bad about her ) and now we have a kid together..I think it's the same thing all over again. Ok he might be saving you from years of harAskMent from a person who has nothing to lose. But why what did she do so bad for you to feel this way? And she has a very tight relationship with his family. (Solution). They made all these promises to each other. The SSL certificate presented by the server did not pass validation. I call my boyfriend heartbeat and he call me mama sometimes he change and call me queen. N always remember God made everything in two and so he will give you the right man! 9. You have every reason to feel disresepected. She deserves the truth. If they aren't married, it's possible he brought her and the child here with the intention to marry her. Yeah! My baby momma got this; she do that; she a teacher; she real smart; she gotta big ass house." OK my baby daddy are in a relationship his other BM keeps commenting on his pictures n statutes. he will flirt with me and sometimes calls me baby My boyfriend has 2 baby mommas! He's a grown ass man. 3. There's nothing to be confused about, let it go and except that he is married! It may have been a silly pet name to call you after a couple beers. She would need a visitor visa to enter the country so how is she going to be able to stay in the country and him get them an apartment? Samantha said.. Ask for FREE. We were together for 3 years on and off and when I fell pregnant he ran for the hills and didn't participate in this AT ALL. His mom and I were cool until he told me she was talking bad about me and when I asked her she said he told her i didn't want to talk to her and eventually the drama he created was too much and at the end of the day she is his mom and will side with him. I hate my boyfriends baby and the baby mama drama. But when I bring it up to him it's a argument.. Two months ago, he called finally saying he wanted me to meet someone. jst wish there was somebody that could actually love me for me! i think they are still talking behind my back. Bro, I understand what you mean. Having baby after baby in a fatherless household will keep a poor woman poor. I am well educated with four children by my ex husband. Why is he spending all of his free time with his ex and ignoring you? This month ( MAY) we celebrated my birthday and went to Miami. You need to stop listening to baby momma. It's a classic story. The dude is completely depraved and behaves like an irresponsible teenager when in reality he's a man in his 50's who refuses acknowledgement of his daughter. I'll remove myself because he already blames me he can't be with anyone because I'll always try with him . Seeing as there are a number of reasons why a guy might call you mama it is important to consider the body language signals that he showed and the context of how he said it. should I stay with or leave him. Sounds messed up to say but I wouldn't date someone with a child.. Wooo, some you ladies need to learn the game, y'all losing. I thought we moved on with our lives, so then he calls me every three months, getting upset. He thought I was cheating, which I never did. He spent the night and asked me to drop him home in the morning. It amazes me how people can point out others faults, but fail to realize you made bad choices also. Six years later he met me and now we are married . Wife must learn to deal with mother of husband's child. Don't care anything about her. I fully agree with you.Im 28 weeks pregnant and my baby daddy is seeing this gf which he lies to her all the time.We broke up few weeks ago but we still have sex.In all our chats and phone calls he still tells me he loves me and that what is important. What I don't understand is why she calls him in the middle of the night for We had such an amazing time , I felt loved , I felt good , I felt like this was finally coming together . If he resists, then you know he still hasn't moved on. It's already too messy and you're being treated like a dirty little secret. No body is perfect so you cannot blame people for that. The reason that he called you mama could be that he wanted to see how you would react. you are 18 or older, you read and agreed to the. Last summer we had a bad falling out that lead me to move on with someone else. Not a term of endearment. Smh worst feeling in the world is to love somebody that you can NEVER have!! I was once in a relationship with someone who has two kids. Whenever you get called mom, guy's are insinuating that you're treating them like their mom does. Man its like your the othe man in my situation except I don't talk bad about my sons mother, I disagree with mossgard. I found out they were actually living together and when I met her she acts like they're still together. To have my daughter call my name and know that I'm only a few rooms away. I dated a guy who had three THREE different babymamas, (FOOL, me, of course) and two of them he had a good relationship with but one he hated. He won't until he's ready. He thinks he's always right. It looked my ex even more for me to not even acknowledge his attempts. My boyfriend and I have been together for over two years now and I like to think we have a strong relationship. Yes!! She put me in a really dark place.then one day she left at 4 am while i was working.and continued acting single chasing anything involving parties.So with that said how can i love someone so abusive. He doesn't hate me we actually have a good relationship , and it's not because of our daughter it's just the way we are with each other even before we had her. Originally Posted by RoyalDanceQueen View Post, My boyfriend and I have been dating for a year now, he has a child with his ex but he told me their relationship ended long time ago. Best thing you can do is end it and walk away. I think people often underestimate how big of a deal it really is to have a child with someone especially if you have that child with someone you dont plan on staying in a romantic relationship with. "If she constantly asks intrusive questions, your partner needs to be able to reply: 'That is not up for discussion.'". My boyfriend cannot put boundaries with his baby mama, she calls whenever she likes, he cannot answer her calls in front of me, I found him sending pictures of his late mother to her with crying emojis..this is disturbing but I dont think I'm ready to accept that he is not ready to put me first and our relationship. telling the truth I am going through the same thing, but mine is multiple. I will never let my daughter go through that I went through ever . True. when a man have a kid(s) with his ex(s) they are a package deal.if u want to be with him, u have to be supportive n understanding and don't stress him out cuz he is not giving u enough time.this can lead to fights n eventually a break up. Let me break it down for you. Last month i had a wake up call and had to just end it after his child's 3rd bday. But it us only a territorial response on his part. The person who posted on here earlier this year. He hasn't seen our daughter since I found out the reason why he left. I came across the guy with no intention of attractions what so ever. Yeap! Should they even talk after a certain time of night? I get wanting to soend time with his kids but does this mean hes playing me? It's about the kids. These girls he's messing with hate the fact that I'm around him , they don't even want to think about me and him even going out for our daughter . Fast forward 2 weeks later, he was calling my phone to get some. I feel a baby mama should be treated like any ex. But you can go by what you see and hear in order to make an intelligent decision. Would any of his family tell you the truth? 2023 ZIFF DAVIS CANADA, INC. ALL RIGHTS RESERVED. They move here first, leave the wife and kid behind, when they get their citizenship they have the wife move here. To try to sum up what could be a culmination of mixed emotions may be impossible but you have to build that bridge to get across. The mother of his son tends to call at the worst times, and even sends him messages late at night on occasion. All he has to do is pretend like he's treating you special and he gets access. But if he's in love why did he cheat or why is she so understanding to what he wants and waiting on him like this I did cuz I was a kid then I think were 25 n hell he 28 this year n shes 30 so I dont get this love triangle but I'm out of it. I don't think he going to give up is child for you as no man will do that. To be stranded during your first pregnancy, financially reliant on this asshole, emotional, hormonal and to be left for dead could maybe make a person slightly insane. By calling this, I mean that I care about you, I find you . In my experience, it's still a good nickname no matter how many times you've heard it. They sent her a pic and all of all of us at the mall he couldnt deny it I mean we werent doing anything we were shopping for the kids and all hell broke loose. WOW, Once a guy is married with kids he's not available anymore what is it girls don't get there's no such thing as a divorce! His bm hates me and always calls me a **** claiming she's dating him anytime we talk. and 2. he's never called me that before. What to Do if You Dont Like Being Called His Baby Mama. Which never happened. I couldn't think of anything worse than getting back with my ex, even the thought of sex with them again repulses me, but I love my kids and deeply care about their other parent who gave me my children.. No other feelings left there. What do i do?.over the last year or so I thought there was some fire again as we were acting like the old days. Hearts and Lattes. You aren't doing anything other than wasting time. An example of data being processed may be a unique identifier stored in a cookie. Your raising a boy who will grow up to be a man and he needs to know and see how a REAL man handles his business. Is It a Good Sign that Your Boyfriend Is Committed to You? If the relationship was toxic then this is how it can affect you. Depending how things happen, if they were in a relationship or if they continue seeing each other after the split, in my case we were together for almost 2 years I found out he was lying to me the whole time he was still sleeping with his ex I suspected something wasnt ok, yes I did look into his fb. He has a new woman and I Dnt interference am happy for him, me I haven't found mmthere right yet, and I'd never cheat or go back with my bby daddy as I look at him as a friend now father of my child nothing more, the thoughts iof ever having a intimate relationship sickens me. Miss Lucy had a baby And she named him Tiny Tim. 9. Always pointing his feet at you when you're near. He calls and says, "It's me." When your relationship starts to develop a comfortable routine, chances are he'll call you and say, "Hi, it's me." When this happens, he's sending a message through verbal intimacy that your relationship is going in the right direction and he's feeling warm and fuzzy about you. Log in to reply. Again, it would be helpful to consider if he was showing numerous signs of attraction. He's married and even if he said he's not she's now living in this country with him. Wear granny panties to bed. Because no matter who he or I wind up with, they will have to know that we are bonded for life. Whereas, if he shows multiple signs of attraction in his body language then it would be more likely that he actually is attracted to you. Just know that you are perfectly fine. In short, she took away my ability to come home every day and see my daughter. However, the difference is she knew he had a fiance, she was just living in hope that she's never make it over to England, because it took about 3 years. Sometime in his life he thought of ya as forever. If I could take her to school with me I would but all the slots were full. I don't get it . How long is she planning on staying? Wake up he's married with kids PERIOD! It would be just too complicated for me. I said dont forget you blocked me of all access to you. This could indicate an expired SSL certificate or a certificate that does not include the requested domain name. I actually do applications for him just because I know he needs one . It all depends on the context and how its used. I don't wish it would've worked out. Kick his ass out. Blood relatives from those parts seem to look aside and not care when these married men take on a girlfriend on the side to "tide themselves over" while they're working long-distance. Constantly brings up his BM on random conversations but doesn't get why I get upset. But she doesn't know the half of it. I had given it everything I had. But it was five years of hell. I have 2 kids with my BD and he has 3 kids with his BM before me. explicit permission. You should be ashamed of yourself. he knew this and thought that if he got me pregnant i would somehow magically want to be with him when in fact it made matters worse. Im in a similar situation right now, I m still in love but feel like if I can't get past this, the love on one end will come to an end. The fiance found out about it, because the OW was very confident and wouldn't disappear. they are at the point where its time to pick schools and he is trying to get it taken care of (and include me since we may have his daugter primarily in the fall) but ive never met bm and dont care to. Do you not read between the lines. Birth control is readily available. That's why, if I were single. He doesn't see it the same. My bd used to make females think I was this horrible monster because he was locked up due to putting his hands on me at 8 months pregnant. Now that's understandable, cheating game horrible and I strongly believe no woman should take away the father right wanting to spend time with their child. Answer (1 of 24): Depends. I do feel you on this situation. You've shown her she can get under your skin. Really I feel sorry for the current and future women in my life, because I would drop them in a heartbeat to go back and try to make things work. Don't have kids unless your absolutely sure about your partner, and have had years to learn and understand them, otherwise theres a good chance your going to live a long life of unfulfilled mediocrity. In fact, he just called me at 3 a.m. (with a female in the back) asking me to save the time and date. All that you wrote went in one ear and came out the next. Her father is semi on the scene (couple of times a week, doesn't really contribute anything), recently I've noticed that her BD tends to crack jokes in chat which she finds hilarious. But he makes it like it's nothing. Just like he posted a status saying I'm going to sleep and she'll comment yea you better go to bed. And if it's the other way around then I definitely wouldn't be worried about it bc if they still wanted your current bf/gf then they wouldn't have left them! He drank up all the water. I knew about his living sitution , and I would say the end of 2014 the girl became pregnant and had a girl in June 2015. Long story short I have done everything in my power to get this woman back! ~Signs to tell he still loves his baby momma ~. You have to say this to him if you can't have me in your life 100% then we're done! Reach out to the bm and get to know her for yourself. They are a couple guys in school and when they found out I had a daughter they said oh no , I am too young to be taking care of a child that ain't mine I said uh I wasn't even thinking that's far I thought we were friends and that's the end of that lol. But he tried to tel me I set him up wow I said to him. If he can't, it might be a sign you're dating a mama's boy and it could be in your best interest to cut him loose. Theres no need to meet her. To me, it implies that we were never in a relationship and he accidentally knocked me up which is not true. What he does to me. I love him so much and fought for two years to make sure he was involved. He always answers her call becoz he wants to make to sure his kids are ok an I totally understand. It is really not the most common term of endearment, but calling someone "baby mama" or "baby daddy" is a pet name of sorts. He must have made a ton of money or you were paying for everything. Not sure what he has told her about me and it doesnt matter given that I have never met her and he's sending me messages about wanting to get back together behind her back as I'm sure she would not be ok with that. I'm trying to move on, but its hard. you obviously got yourself pregnant on purpose as well. Anna Perry. If you or someone close to you is currently in crisis or in an emergency situation, contact your local law enforcement agency or emergency number. She said they were just friends and I never caught her cheating but why she gotta lie. If a guy recently called you mama then youre probably wondering why and what he meant by it. In my situation I don't per se love my child's father but I respect him as her father, He has a girlfriend now that has really helped him mature their relationship is really good, I actually like her more than him. Doesn't make any sense that he did that because he left me and our daughter for some new girl he met up at his work. It was something about him as well that I could not put my finger on. When he goes down on you, insist that he have a few bites of vegetables too. Laninaconfusa 2 yr. ago. Put your panties on and lay down the law. I have seen this many times when I was dating. When he is home he barley spends time with my son. I melt inside everytime I see her which is twice a week. We were together 8 years and our daughter is six. But he says the love he has for me has been gone but I still want to be together. Now if you're looking for special Spanish names to call your boyfriend or husband, here are some romantic ones to choose from. Between the two of them they are always arguing or in some fight every few days. If he also calls other women mama and he shows the same body language around them as he does around you then it would be less likely that he was showing attraction to you and more likely that he naturally says it to women. Talked to him later, "Is this like our engagement or? RoyalDanceQueen, January 23, 2017 in Dating. "You don't want to be either, you are not "just" something, you are many great things and you win when you find someone who sees all of that.". In some cultures, its normal for a guy to call his girlfriend his baby mama as a way of saying hes committed to her and sees her as wife and/or mother material. patito. It would also be helpful to consider the type of relationship that you have with him when trying to understand why he called you mama.