I dont want him to go. I felt we became room mates and no longer husband and wife. Its mind blowing. I think she kept downing our relationship. So sorry for what you are going through. Most husbands work outside the home to provide for the family. This was my goal what had just happened wasnt my life plan. I could not allow a man to make me feel less another second! Strung me along for 6 months while dating other woman. No, Im not saying that you need to forget all that happened. I did what every online blog said not to do. I feel it to.. Marriage is a covenant and is not based on feelings. I guess I still love her as pathetic as that sounds. I just dont know if I should let her go and TRY to move on or keep fighting for her. The ability to do what they want and when they want. Im shutting down. By left me I mean that she asked me to leave. Help is available, and we wish you the best of luck in your search. What is very sad today is that the great majority of women cause most divorces, and theyre without a doubt such low life losers altogether too. Say, "I apologize for being disrespectful when I". 1. I cant understand why they arent questioning this. I am confused. Letting go of the past - especially a husband who left you for another woman - isn't about "getting over it.". Im sure his new single bachelor life is more appealing then doing household work chores, and Being a husband and a dad every day. On Valentines day, she decided to tell me she doesnt love me and has in fact hated me for the last 15 years, though showed no signs of it. She left and went there dad and sister tree planting mothers. My situation Is different In that my ex is NICE all the time. My wife had insisted on getting a new house before we were ready. He stopped saying i love you or acted although it was painful to say. She always eyeballed a house that her male boss was selling. Youre absolutely right! They are now together and I know she had feelings for him whilst we were together. WHY??? I had a thousand questions, but they all boiled down to "why?" You can use our website to search for another therapist in your area by entering your ZIP code here: You might also consider discussing any concerns you might have with your therapist with that therapist directly. Its like he wants to keep me down. While it . I later found out she moved into the house her male boss was selling. Oh well, f$%# her! He is talking of selling the family home. I have been on his plan for 21 years. How about that? I am ashamed to have to say it but I can only accept what is and continue to try to be the best father I can for them each and every weekend when I get them. My wife left me in October after 6 years Im dealing with my in-laws involved the failure of our marriage has been all shifted on me my wife has changed her cell all kinds of madness, I try to get it out as much as I can its tuff I have the bills kids everything to deal with, How lucky ur wife is to be much loved by youi wish i am that person..:(, My husband had never showed me love from the very begginning. He said no, that for the first time in years he finally had a best friend. But the ties are weakening and I feel like I am at my wits end. Thank you so much. :), I am retired navy vet and I read. She isnt in love with me anymore. We looked at the rings on Friday in my favorite shop went in tried on a ring I had seen months before , on the evening we had family and friends over. It is the little daily things that make life worth living and I know how to put you in the right perspective. But dont torture yourself. My husband left me after going into a two-week-long depression where he wouldnt tell me what was going on. I am on the fence with how I feel and how much more I want to put up with. I thought to myself what the fk? Think about the parts of Jon that could not be true to Jon because of her. So until that happens, dont waste minutes precious minutes and time thinking about what he did to you or how you wanted to change. After she moved out I found out she was in a realationship with another man my wife had many affairs I tried to work things out but they just didnt stop this was the 2nd on in less than 2 yes not sure how to feel right now It is so hard I cant seem to grasp how she can move on so quickly. Another helpful tip we have for you is to read self-help books. I know that there are a lot of women that would be very hopeful in finding a guy like me.I cannot go through life alone.I have to have a partner to share life and love with.I dont know where to start to meet that special person.My heart is totally shattered,and Im still in shock.I prey that i will wake up some day and not care anymore.Sorry that i am so blind to whats going on.I guess i still believe that we can get back together.I know I am totally stupid to think that,But for now I cant help the way that I feel. I didnt even have the pass codes to the credit card or the banking accounts. I am an amazing husband and I am taking it all wrong. I do love my husband. Its gotten really wild and way more frequent! I am pretty sure both girls will elect to come live with me soon. Set up a lot of reasons why and decided that for insurance purposes, it would be best to wait until my youngest turned 18. I cannot comprehend my life without her. Cant stop crying and hate being alone for even 1 hour. I will relate it to what I experienced; maybe it will help someone else. I feel like i will never get over it and I know there is more heartache to come. The feeling sorry for him part for being an emotionally broken person is really gone when you give me choices to betraying me and put my business at risk that I started four years ago. Its very painful its been only 2 months after we live together for over 4 years and we have a 2 years old. He just kept saying it was his problem. He decided this life, our life, wasnt for him.. I dont owe you anything. These are really dated terms. Shes shortsided. I was devastated. Im sure they wouldnt like knowing she abandoned her kids. SHOW ME YOU STILL LOVE ME. Perhaps your husband has a personality disorder. My wife and i have been married for 4 years and together for 5. I just didnt know about it. Two blows in one go. And I cant get past feeling devastated, crying when Im alone after work until I go to bed. In time of need his true colors blossom. I had to get my own account because he kept taking huge amounts of money out of our joint account without even saying anything about it or what it was for. I lost my wife, two stepdaughters and someone I thought was a friend.I was good to her and never cheated. This is a way to avoid your hurt and not deal with your emotional health. I have to try and stay strong for myself and my children but its so hard. I asked my wife to meet me when she got off work which was later and later than years ago. I truly dont know what to do. It does feel a little less horrible to know that were not all alone. My friends have brilliant in all this and Im starting to feel like in time I will get over this but the hurt is sometimes unbearable. This whole situation is crazy. We have two children together and she has two other children by two other fathers that are not in their lives. My two closest friends both claim that if he said jump I would ask how high so I think I was attentive especially when he asked me for special items for dinner or what not I always make sure he had his request fufilled. I need advice. He said that over the years we relied too much on each other and have nothing to show for it. This happens slowly and mysteriously until, one day, there are no common interests and someone gets bored and wants to move on. The terms broken home, broken family, failed marriage, broken marriage, are still terms used to describe my situation, all of which I loathe. A girl who is blinded by love. Now, your one and only is gone and you're left sitting wondering where everything went wrong and why he left. Even after this I still love/loved him, but I had no idea what to do or how to proceed. I am so heartbroken but the more I plead a nd get mad, and for fight for our marriage, the more he rejects me and doesnt even want to talk. You wont even bother to try to communicate with him and find your self at peace not playing into his emotional abuse games. We have 3 girls 10.11 and 13. As hard as it is, I do. Six months that I have been experiencing the utmost happiness, while also experiencing the most gut-wrenching guilt. We're told in God's Word, " The eyes of man are never satisfied. Hi Katelyn. I am starting to realize no matter how many of her fav mags I buy her or if I bring her flowers or chocolate cupcakes for treats constantly, she will barely even notice let alone understand how hard it is for me to choke it back and make that kind of effort again. I am truly sorry to hear that this happened to you. Ive no idea where he is or what hes doing. When I have been upset and called to to him he has been very cold and mean.telling me he hated being in a relationship with hated being a family and so on. You might think she's overreacting at being passed over for a job and she might think you're crazy for over-analyzing that awkward moment at a . Its not you though,youjust do your best for your kids and do your best to just move on. I stopped for a quart of ice cream on my way home from work today, ugh. I have found pills over and over hidden in her car before she totaled it . Any opinions? I know its hard and you might want your husband or another person to be there for you, but thats just not going to happen right away. My husband left me after going into a two-week-long depression where he wouldn't tell me what was going on. He acts like nothing is wrong, asks me to go hang with them etc. He hasnt come home in over two months. My son just walked around crying this whole time. I took it over as there were 4super large steel trays full of food that would have gone to waste if I left it at home. Ghosting doesnt always mean the offending party is being intentional. I can not have sex with s man who lets his children disrespect me and think everything is alright. I cannot take you anymore. He could turn on a tear and look remorseful but wouldnt answer if I said to him , I can get through anything if I know that you love me he would milk all my tears until we both turned defensive and would turn it round to irritation accusing me of mistrust in doubting him . the first time they ever met face to face was at the airport.love at first sight in her words.the way I found out, I was on my way to work and got a text message. However we were married 7 years together for 16, and 3 kids My husband found someone 11 years younger and left me 8 weeks after meeting her!! It stated a picture from FB showing a conversation between my husband and this girl he use to sleep with. And that this medication for *seizures* was effective *because* of the way my neurological system and brain was processing the lengthy aftermath of that injury. What I can say is once you read what others have to say your self esteem and self worth will rise and give you wings as you realize none of it is YOUR fault , they will never change and can only love themselves ! Never ever ever Im paralyzed and just dont know where to begin? Im trying my hardest to not hate her for this, and I get that I havent been the greatest husband having working long distance and her being unemployed, but its the lack of fighting for it that hurts the most. My husband of 32 years has just announced that he never loved me and is moving out. Love is blind, but Im not so blind any more. I am in shock. But I did it and discovered 2 empty bottles of butane. I just want some kind of advice i feel like there is no reason to live anymore After all I did to keep our little family together he walked out on us. What part of the country are you in? Believe me she will wonder whats going on with you! I did offer that he gets help but of course it was nothing wrong with him. His health issues are not serious. Hithis is an awful thing but its so nice to read these messages and know Im not alone in feeling this heartbreak. She sounds like shes crazy now. I always thought our love for each other would conquer all, but I was sadly mistaken. Just for leaving someone that i wasnt happy with. We have some communication issues to work on (as well as emotional maturity on my partner's side), but otherwise it's functional and I'm mostly happy . If he doesnt get a rise out of me, he becomes enraged and starts drama then tries to blame it on me. There are other ways of finding things out, but that all depends on which boundaries you are willing to cross. Unfortunately many people become dissatisfied in marriages even when there are no problems. My husband and I have been separated from each other due to deployment. Cheating partners often dont even want to work on saving the relationship or marriage, increasing levels of frustration and hurt. Then evil sets in. We have been together for 9 no kids (thank God) she was my first love for everything, but things didnt work, and now she say she sees me like a friend As of now, it has left me heartbroken. I am so sorry for you. How are things going now? I miss the small talk. In many cases, there were no common interests to start with, making coming back together even harder. Hope things are looking up for you. Funny thing, I didnt know it! It is natural to . Thanks. He finally moved out after telling the kids he had to find true happiness. I come from a family of strong people. Can deficits in emotional intelligence explain the negative relationship between abandonment schema and marital quality? I will have to let go and I cant see her changing given my history. It was my amazing family and the true friends I can now count on my fingers who propped me up. My wife of 17 years left me while I was at work we were planning a trip to Disney with our 2 boys . After a marriage of almost 25 years, I left my wife. Saving the relationship when youre the only one trying is tough but it doesnt always mean your relationship should be scrapped. When I first found out he said he would never leave me but now she has said she cant live undercover. So, dont sabotage your happiness just because your husband left you, and contact these incredible coaches to receive personalized advice about your love life. I dont think I will ever be able to trust again, I wonder everyday why I even want to remain on this earth if there is so much evil here. 1. I served honorably for 27 years in the Army, receiving the highest peacetime award for my service. Why does your family believe him over you? Friday comes and of course, she unplugs the house phone and turns off her cell and refuses to let me see my kids. That discovery changed my fragile mind even more it made my psychically ill and my immediate thought was that I had caused so much angst with this lovely woman that she changed her values and that that PAIN is what really kills me. I have yet to get the call to come sign them. Hi I am going through this as we speak. If you underappreciated your partner or neglected to nurture the bond between you, your partner might have broken off like a dead limb on a tree. I knew my wife was no longer this person that I longed for. I know how you feel. He probably misses the way things used to be. She never calls, answers and doesnt text back at all. 4. It would of been 10 years of marriage this year. Failure to taste. Hi, another in the same boat, was with my partner for 8 years, we had had a rough year as his hours were dropped to 3 days, then he got suspended, then sacked , secured him a job at where i work, his mum extremely ill and died recently, stuck with him through all this and then 2 months ago he literally stood up and said he didnt know what he wanted and went, phone contact for a while now zilch, nothing, have asked in a text as he not speaking ( so didnt want to mither) if were done yes or no ? We have more information about what to do in a crisis at https://www.goodtherapy.org/in-crisis.html, I have been married for 6 1/2 years and now i want to leave my husband. 1. Exercise and stay busy . This is making me absolutely sick. How so? Very young we started off mid teens. I agree with this article, but the hardest one is this. Hi Susan, I feel for you. He says he loves me very much but is not in love with me I am devastated feel like Im dying inside. Of course, you work. We are separated now for 6 months. Remember : you dont want to be with someone that doesnt want to be faithful and loyal to you. This just might be a part of a painful process where you have to learn how to get over someone. But I have someone to thank for the life I currently have. Tell me something. I kept my act together because I. I am a strong person, that helps. The same applies to young men who can be fooled by a charming female sociopath/narcissist. Thats not because of you, its because of her. And they spoke to their daughter over phone.